{"id":538,"date":"2025-04-10T18:08:31","date_gmt":"2025-04-10T18:08:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.flure.com\/blog\/?p=538"},"modified":"2025-04-25T09:09:46","modified_gmt":"2025-04-25T09:09:46","slug":"how-to-deal-with-a-breakup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flureapp.com\/blog\/relationships\/how-to-deal-with-a-breakup\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal With a Breakup"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Some relationships (and situationships<\/a>) end with a breakup. If you\u2019re reading this article and currently going through a breakup \u2013 we feel you, and we got you. It\u2019ll get better, we promise!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you\u2019ve initiated the split or someone broke up with you, it\u2019s a pretty emotional time. Perhaps understanding the science of breakup will help you heal and move on a bit sooner and with less heartache.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breakup stages<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

First things first, let\u2019s identify and understand the main stages of a breakup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breakup stages mimic the stages of grief because you are, in a way, grieving over the person and the life you had with them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Denial \u2013 you\u2019re in disbelief that it actually happened.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Anger \u2013 you\u2019re furious that this happened and you\u2019re now going through it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Depression \u2013 that\u2019s when we let go and really feel the breakup to our cores.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Acceptance \u2013 you\u2019re starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel by accepting your new reality.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Recovery \u2013 the worst is behind you, and you\u2019re going back to your old self.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Whatever stage you are at at the moment, you\u2019re doing great, keep it up, and don\u2019t be too hard on yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    How long does it take to get over a breakup<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    Charlotte in Sex and the City famously said that getting over someone takes half of the time you\u2019ve been together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    There may be some truth to that, however, every breakup is different and will take a different amount of time to heal. Some relationships end way before the actual split and the breakup is mutual, so there are no strong feelings when it happens. People who lived together for a decade will more likely have a harder time recovering. So, the answer is \u201cit depends\u201d, sorry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    How to move on from breakup<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    There are many ways how you can get over a breakup, so you can mix and match between the techniques below for best results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Stop communication with ex<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Dua Lipa wasn\u2019t lying in her song, saying that if you\u2019re under him, you ain\u2019t getting over him. While not everyone sleeps with their ex, texting, talking, and meeting in person can be just as detrimental. You guys broke up for a reason, so give yourself a grace period if you\u2019re not ready to cut them out completely, and do not engage in any form of communication until you\u2019ve really healed and can handle it. Unfollow and block them temporarily to reduce the temptation. Trust us, no contact is the best way to go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Reflect on the relationship<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    But do it in a healthy way! Don\u2019t cry your eyes out and repeat the same story again and again to yourself (like how he is the one, and you\u2019ll never find anyone better). Instead, take a sober look at the relationship \u2013 what was good about it, what sucked, what kind of memories you made together, and how this relationship transformed you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    If you go to therapy, bring this up and ask them to guide you. Psychology doesn\u2019t have all the answers, but you\u2019ll surely be able to progress with your healing journey with helpful tips and practices shared by the specialist. It can be painful if you\u2019re still grieving the relationship, but ultimately you will benefit from a closure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Make plans with friends<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Friends are practically family when you\u2019re an adult, and what better way to get your mind off the breakup than to hang out with your favorite people? They\u2019ll comfort you and help you move on. Make plans even if you\u2019d rather stay and cry at home, and DON\u2019T cancel at the last minute!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    As a tip from the Flure<\/a> team, and trust us we are speaking from personal experience, you might want to do less bar hopping with your friends and more walks in nature, creative activities, like painting, museum runs, and so on. Drinking can make you do reckless things, like sending a message to your ex, so best to avoid it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Pick up a hobby<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Trying new things is an amazing form of therapy. Working on something that you\u2019re a complete newbie in will keep you from the breakup, and you\u2019ll learn a new skill. Talking about a win-win! Things like wood carving and pottery classes are great, give them a try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Rediscover old hobbies<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    If nothing new calls your name \u2013 think back at what you were doing before. Perhaps you can pick up tennis again? Or go back to studying French? What about those books you\u2019ve always wanted to read? Think of your teenage years and what brought you joy back then. Chances are, you\u2019ll still have a lot of fun with this activity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Declutter your apartment<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Decluttering can be so meditative and satisfying, and if your apartment is full of things that belong to or are associated with your ex, you might want to put it on your to-do list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We don\u2019t suggest you throw everything out but look for things that no longer serve you and find a better home for or recycle them. Also, you probably have a few pieces that are broken and can\u2019t be used properly but you\u2019ve held on to them somehow. Now is a good time to say goodbye to them too. Once you\u2019re done with purging, bring in something new, like a plant or a poster to give your space a fresh feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Exercise more<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    If you don\u2019t know what to do after a breakup and struggle to cope with your feelings \u2013 sweat it off in the gym, on the court, in the park, or even in the comfort of your own home. If you\u2019re not big on sports, find one of the dancing exercise parties on YouTube and have a 15-20 minute session jumping and dancing with the latest hits blasting. Just do it at a godly hour, or your neighbors will not be happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Explore the world of self-pleasure<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    An orgasm<\/a> or two can do wonders for your mood! We don\u2019t recommend finding a rebound relationship or (God forbid!) having casual sex with your ex. Masturbation<\/a>, however, is a wonderful way to get to the O-town without unnecessary risks of growing (re)attached or anxiety of having to leave the house and go on dates. There are countless ways that you can have sexy fun on your own, and even more tools to help you out! What better time to expand your sexual horizons?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    How to get over someone you still love<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    Still loving your ex-partner is tough. You will need more time to heal than if you\u2019ve left with no feelings, but it can still be done. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or perfect advice for getting over someone you\u2019re still in love with. However, if you follow our advice above, you\u2019ll be able to heal from a breakup sooner rather than later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    One more tip that we didn\u2019t mention earlier in this article \u2013 continue with your routines to maintain a sense of normalcy. You\u2019re already going through a traumatic event, your mind and body don\u2019t need more stress in the shape of the changed lifestyle. Don\u2019t skip showers, go on walks, shop for groceries, and maintain friendships. All that will help you get through it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    How to breakup with someone<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Before we sign off, let\u2019s quickly go through the breakup when you\u2019re the one to break the news. Here is how you can sweeten the pill:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Do it in person, none of that texting nonsense.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Do it somewhere private, don\u2019t break up with your partner in a crowded space hoping it will keep them from crying or making a scene.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. Be honest and direct. Don\u2019t give them false hope.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    4. Speak using \u201cI\u201d sentences, like \u201cI feel like I am no longer happy\u201d.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    5. Be patient and kind. They\u2019re probably shocked, so allow them time to process the news.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Breaking up with someone isn\u2019t fun, but you can make it less traumatic and hostile, just remember why you got together, to begin with, and show empathy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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