What Is Chastity? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Chastity is the kink centered around the restriction of pleasure. Typically, although not necessarily, it involves a device that somehow prevents the person from being able to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Have sex<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Get aroused (mostly for penis owners)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Reach an orgasm<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
There is usually a submissive person who is denied sexual pleasure and release, and the dominating one, sometimes referred to as the key holder. The key holder is literally or figuratively holding the key to their partner\u2019s orgasm, and they apply psychological domination and require discipline, obedience, and overall submission from them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Chastity can be a short-term thing or a long-term dynamic, depending on everyone\u2019s preferences. It can also either be a limited, couple of hours event or become a full-time part of the daily routine where the sub is wearing some kind of device almost 24\/7 with only a couple of hours break. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Side note:<\/em> If you are going to talk about chastity with someone, make sure you\u2019re on the same page with them. Some understand chastity primarily as sex abstinence for religious, medical, or personal reasons. They don\u2019t link it with BDSM or kinks, and they may be very confused once you progress with this conversation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Chastity Tools<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Technically, you don\u2019t need any devices, tools, or accessories to get started with chastity. But it isn\u2019t so fun then, is it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are a few ideas to get you started. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Belts<\/strong>. Chastity belts are great because they fit both men and women’s anatomy. You can switch them back and forth between yourself and your lovers. Great value for money, especially in this economy! These belts can be purchased in silicone to make them easier to live in or you can go for hardcore metal ones to get a full-on medieval experience. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Chastity cages<\/strong> for penis-holders. There are special cages to encase and lock someone\u2019s penis. How neat! This little thingy will block and prevent erections and essentially make stimulation impossible. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Chastity shields and cages<\/strong> for women. Similar to cages for penises, these tools block access to the vulva, so you can\u2019t masturbate, play with a vibrator, or have penetrative sex unless the dom takes it off.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Smart devices. <\/strong>Thank God for technology! There are modern chastity devices out there that connect to bluetooth and enable the digital key holder to control it remotely. Not only is it fun, but you can also playfully mess with your partner if you guys are far away from each other right now, but want to stay emotionally close. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
In addition to these main tools, you can also get a few accessories to spice things up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Timed lock will allow you to set a timer for release.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Keyholders or fancy key boxes can be used for the symbolic exchange of keys and control. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Benefits of Chastity <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nChastity is not everyone\u2019s cup of tea, but it\u2019s a fun little kink.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you struggle to see why anyone would enjoy chastity, here are some of the selling points. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Stronger arousal<\/strong> than you can have with classic sex. Imagine waiting for hours and being teased endlessly before you can finally touch each other and have sex. Oof! The anticipation alone is almost unbearable. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Long-lasting orgasms<\/strong>. More studies need to be carried out about it, but waiting for foreplay and sex results in more powerful orgasms. Not only are they lasting longer, but they\u2019re stronger than your usuals. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Erotic power exchange<\/strong>. Power games are inherently exciting, and implementing such dynamics in a couple’s intimacy consensually makes their emotional bond stronger. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Trust.<\/strong> Passing full control over your genitals to another person is sort of scary and requires a lot of trust. Couples who do it get an unmatched sense of trust between them, something that is hard to replicate in different scenarios. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Self-discipline. <\/strong>Now that\u2019s a productivity technique we can get behind! You quite literally have no other choice but to work on our self-control and discipline, as well as patience and mindfulness. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Also, if you\u2019re experimenting with your sexual experiences and want to try celibacy, for example, for penetrative sex only, chastity devices are great helpers. If your version of celibacy allows kissing and hugging, the temptation can become just a little bit too much. The device will ensure you don\u2019t cross the line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Chastity: Safety and Consent Tips<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Chastity is, obviously, a very limiting and restraining kink. Whether you\u2019re doing it with someone you\u2019ve just met on the Flure app or a person you\u2019ve been seeing for a while, it\u2019s paramount that you exchange full, enthusiastic, and verbal consent<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has to understand what chastity entails and be prepared for it. You\u2019ll be limiting not just the ways you can get sexual pleasure but also the basics, such as the ability to touch yourself casually and maybe even the trips to the toilet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Have a talk about:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Boundaries <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Limits <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Scenarios <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Preferences <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Next, talk about the exit options. Have a safe word<\/strong>, safe symbol, or safe gesture prepared. Even if you guys are super comfortable around one another, there has to be a way to quickly communicate that you\u2019re no longer into the chastity game. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
A nice and short safe word or gesture is helpful because:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- You don\u2019t need to have a lengthy exchange and conversation, leaving the person uncomfortable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- If someone is shy or afraid to stop because they don\u2019t want to ruin the fun for you, it will be easier for them to just say a word or show a symbol. Lowering the barrier to exit is critical if you want to create a healthy kink environment for all parties involved. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
In terms of safety, don\u2019t leave someone locked up for longer periods of time or when you leave town. What if there\u2019s an emergency? They should be able to take the device off quickly. For those purposes, consider keeping the spare key somewhere close, so it can be used in exceptional circumstances. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those are the main tips for safety and consent, and here is a brief checklist for you to have a quick glance at before you engage in a new chastity session:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Mutual consent <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Well-fitted devices <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Slow start <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Hygiene for skin and devices <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Safe word <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Regular check-ins <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Sometimes people feel weird about bringing those topics up, worrying that it will spoil the mood and make them look lame, but in reality, the opposite happens. Being taken care of, respected, and supported is wonderful, and everyone wants that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
FAQ<\/h2>\n\n\n
\n\n\nIs chastity controlling?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
\n\nChastity is inherently controlling, but that\u2019s the whole point of the kink! Two or more people willingly join this game and agree to have their bodies restricted and controlled by someone else. If it\u2019s fully consensual, then there is no issue with that.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
\nIs chastity for men or women?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
\n\nChastity is a kink that works for both men and women. Men are often a bit more skeptical as anything that has to do with a penis is super stressful. However, there are completely safe devices and practices for everyone, so don\u2019t shy away from this pleasure!<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
\nIs chastity normal?\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n
\n\nChastity is a little power game that people play to have some fun and try new things in the intimacy department. There\u2019s nothing wrong with that, as long as it\u2019s consensual and you\u2019re exploring chastity ethically.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n
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- Long-lasting orgasms<\/strong>. More studies need to be carried out about it, but waiting for foreplay and sex results in more powerful orgasms. Not only are they lasting longer, but they\u2019re stronger than your usuals. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Stronger arousal<\/strong> than you can have with classic sex. Imagine waiting for hours and being teased endlessly before you can finally touch each other and have sex. Oof! The anticipation alone is almost unbearable. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Chastity cages<\/strong> for penis-holders. There are special cages to encase and lock someone\u2019s penis. How neat! This little thingy will block and prevent erections and essentially make stimulation impossible. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Belts<\/strong>. Chastity belts are great because they fit both men and women’s anatomy. You can switch them back and forth between yourself and your lovers. Great value for money, especially in this economy! These belts can be purchased in silicone to make them easier to live in or you can go for hardcore metal ones to get a full-on medieval experience. <\/li>\n\n\n\n