{"id":1033,"date":"2025-04-11T11:19:32","date_gmt":"2025-04-11T11:19:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.flure.com\/blog\/?p=1033"},"modified":"2025-04-25T12:09:07","modified_gmt":"2025-04-25T12:09:07","slug":"what-does-genderqueer-mean-explained","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.flureapp.com\/blog\/identities\/what-does-genderqueer-mean-explained\/","title":{"rendered":"What Does Genderqueer Really Mean?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Sexualities come in different shapes and forms. Today at Flure<\/a> will be talking about the concept of genderqueer \u2013 learn the meaning of the term, understand what it feels like to be genderqueer, and compare it against other sexualities. Buckle up!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is genderqueer?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If the word genderqueer has you confused, no worries! It is an umbrella term, and it represents a number of things. Anything outside the traditional binary (male and female genders and heterosexuality) can be considered genderqueer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even though the term was first introduced in the 1980s, it continues to evolve, so you might come across slightly different definitions, but the main idea is usually the same \u2013 genderqueer covers sexual orientations and identities that are not \u201ctraditional\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, for example, a person born in a woman\u2019s body may feel weird and as if they\u2019re living someone else\u2019s life, and identify themselves with a male gender or non-binary people. Basically, gender queerness is about having a non-cisgender identity and\/or having sexual orientations that are non-hetero, such as being bi or bi-curious<\/a> or being in polyamorous<\/a> relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Note: While the word \u201cqueer\u201d is widely used nowadays, it had a negative connotation not too long ago, and was used as an insult and a slur. The LGBTQ+ community is regaining control of the word and what it symbolizes, but it is still sometimes used as a degrading term. It\u2019s best to be careful when using it, and maybe even double-check with people around you that they\u2019re not offended by it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to know you\u2019re genderqueer<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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If you suspect that you might be genderqueer, there are factors and signs to consider that can confirm it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not science though, so don\u2019t rely solely on the points we share below, but also do your own research, read and watch commentary by other genderqueer people, talk to them if you know someone, or ask to be introduced. If you\u2019re seeing a therapist, share your thoughts with them too. A therapist will not be able to tell you who you are, but they\u2019re well-equipped to guide you in the right direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, here are the signs that the Flure team collected from other genderqueer people and by talking to different experts:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. You feel uncomfortable and dissatisfied with the idea of traditional gender norms and what they represent.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Your self-expression in mannerisms, clothes, hairstyles, makeup, etc, doesn\u2019t align with the traditional gender norms and societal expectations.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Your perception of your gender is not stable in the sense that you feel differently about who you are at different points in your life.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. The way you act, talk, and express yourself changes when you enter LGBTQ+ \u201csafe spaces\u201d.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. You are actively looking for gender affirmation from others.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. You are curious about alternative genders, sexual orientations, and identities, and you’re consuming a lot of content or talking about it often.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    What does it mean to be genderqueer<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Let\u2019s preface the list below by saying that being genderqueer can mean anything or at least a lot of things. So if your experience is different, that\u2019s okay! However, many genderqueer people relate to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n