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Gender is not even a thought for some people, while others search for their identity and struggle to define which gender they relate to if they do at all. If you\u2019re not sure about your own gender situation, Flure\u2019s<\/a> got you covered. Today, we discuss what it means to be genderfluid, whether genderfluid people can date and fall in love, and compare it against other options on the gender spectrum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is genderfluid?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The basic meaning of the term genderfluid stands for an individual who doesn\u2019t fully fit into any of the binary gender categories. For them, gender is not something permanent, but a more flexible, fluid substance. Someone who is genderfluid may relate to women for a while, then feel more like a man, and later find themselves relating to none at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genderfluid vs non-binary<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s common to think that genderfluid and non-binary are interchangeable terms, but that\u2019s not exactly the case. A genderfluid person can relate to and live the non-binary experience as a part of their journey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As for non-binary folks, they can be genderfluid at the beginning when they just start to realize they don\u2019t fall under basic male and female categories. However, later, once they confirm that they\u2019re non-binary, they tend to stay that way. This is, of course, highly subjective, and your personal experience can look totally different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genderqueer vs genderfluid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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The second pair that has people confused is the genderqueer vs genderfluid combo. Yep, these are not the same, guys!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genderqueer<\/a> individuals don\u2019t conform to the traditional gender categories (female and male) and encompass all identities outside of male and female. Genderqueer can also mean genderfluid or non-binary, but it\u2019s much more than that because it\u2019s an umbrella term. Genderqueer people can identify with one, multiple, or no genders at all. Some of the genders that fall under the genderqueer category are demigender, neutrois, androgynous, two-spirit, or pangender.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Note: The word \u201cqueer\u201d used to be, and continues to be in some parts of the world, a slur that was meant to be degrading and insulting. These days, many members of the LGBTQ+ community are using it to celebrate who they are and empower themselves. However, it is still a bit ambiguous, so the Flure team would personally recommend using it cautiously, otherwise you might accidentally offend someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genderflux vs genderfluid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Genderfluid people are flexible with what gender they relate to over time. Today they may identify as a woman, and next week they might align with the non-binary population.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genderflux is similar but not the same. Someone who is genderflux will differ in how strongly they relate to the gender. For example, this month they fully identify as a female and feel it deeply in their bones. But come next month, they\u2019re not so hot about this gender, and don\u2019t feel connected to it as much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Someone who is genderflux can identify with just one gender and range in intensity of how much they relate to it, but they can also identify with multiple genders at a time and feel differently towards them, as time goes on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agender vs genderfluid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Agender people don\u2019t align with any gender, and they don\u2019t really care about it. For agender folks, focusing on gender is not a big concern or a thought that crosses their mind. They don\u2019t have a connection with the gender concept and present themselves in a gender-neutral manner. As you see, agender is a very different concept from genderfluid. Someone who is genderfluid cares about many genders and it\u2019s a relatively big part of their day-to-day life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bigender vs genderfluid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Both bigender and genderfluid terms describe someone who identifies with more than one gender. With bigender, however, the person has two set genders that they fluctuate between, whereas a genderfluid individual does not have a limit on how many genders they can identify with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bigender people can feel like both genders at the same time or alternate between them. Genderfluid people typically only identify with one gender at a time. Unlike genderqueer individuals, someone who is bigender or genderfluid can both identify with traditional genders (male and female).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am I genderfluid?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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If you\u2019ve read this article so far and this thought comes up \u2013 then there might be some truth to it. People who are confident with their genders rarely question themselves, at least not when they become adults.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So if you\u2019re wondering, it\u2019s quite possible that you can be genderfluid. Or you can be genderflux or bigender. There\u2019s so much to unpack here!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For today though, let\u2019s focus on gender fluidity. How to know if you\u2019re genderfluid?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, look at how you carry yourself. Do your hair and clothing styles, mannerisms, and the way you talk and walk change over time? If you find yourself dressing up a certain way, and then changing it up completely in a few weeks to align more with a different gender, then that\u2019s your cue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it\u2019s not all about external things of course. First and foremost, gender is what\u2019s inside and how you feel about yourself. So look back at your life recently and answer the following questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Do you relate to the sex that you were assigned at birth?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Do you relate to any other genders?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. What does gender mean for you?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Have you ever felt like you don\u2019t identify with any gender at all?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Does someone assuming your gender bother you?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. Have you thought about alternative roles in your romantic relationships that won\u2019t align with the gender that was assigned at birth?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. Have you ever done things or complied with rhetoric that\u2019s traditional for your gender, even though you didn\u2019t agree with it internally?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Your answers to the questions above will push you in the right direction, even though they won\u2019t give you 100% confirmation. Only you can do it with the help of inner work. This deeply personal process will take time, so be patient with yourself and don\u2019t rush things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Here\u2019s what you can do during this time:<\/p>\n\n\n\n